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Hi, j_amanda and ccoralacid

I just took a look at my bio page and saw that both of you have friended me.  So, I wanted to let you know that I've returned the favour.

Do you ever post, ccoralacid ?  I know you found me through my TS post about World AIDS Day, but apart from that and the fact that your LJ bio page says you're in the UK, that's all I know about you.  Care to provide some hints about your interests, or which of mine you share?

You and I, j_amanda , can discuss the finer points of hurricanes vs. earthquakes, which could be used as a metaphor for that old question -- Would you, or wouldn't you, want to know in advance when you're going to die?  Hurricanes:  knowing ahead of time, getting to set all your affairs in order, getting to make your final goodbyes.  Earthquakes:  you step into the street and get hit by a bus.  (I'm only being a little tongue in cheek here; it's actually a really interesting question, and I'd love to know which side people take.)  I'm firmly in the "wants advance warning" camp.


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Dec. 22nd, 2004 05:08 pm (UTC)
I wouldn't want to know the exact date, but I would like a timeframe. Like, "You're going to die somewhere between June '05 and June '06." Or maybe that's sitting on the fence.
Dec. 23rd, 2004 07:51 pm (UTC)
No, that's okay, but I'd want to know well in advance so that I could start making preparations. You know -- like finding a guardian for the cat, culling my DVD library, bookshelves, and bedside table of everything that doesn't fit the RL image people have of me (putting all of it in one big box that I could label "Warning: Adult Material -- Open at Your Own Risk"), etc. Then, come 31 May 2005, I'd be all set. Otherwise, the parents (who along with my sister would be the ones going through my effects) would be shocked. Actually, my sister would probably be shocked too, but she has it coming. *g*
Dec. 22nd, 2004 07:03 pm (UTC)
Hi, happy to meetcha!
Seems like maybe you and I ought to switch geographical locations as I definitely do not want to know in advance when I'm going to die. I do want to know when a hurricane is coming, I just assume I'll survive it. No, I think if I knew the moment of my death you’d have to sedate me so far in advance I wouldn’t get anything done, anyway. Bring on the bus!
Dec. 23rd, 2004 08:16 pm (UTC)
Re: Hi, happy to meetcha!
Well, you see, spontaneity has never been my strong suit (can we all say "anal" and "control freak" now ... ) I tend to plan everything in my life -- nothing's ever spur of the moment. So, this is just the next logical step.

What I'm actually thinking about is having a terminal illness and having doctors who are honest about it with you. I'd like to be in a position to opt out on my own terms if I chose to do so, not end up helpless in a hospital bed with everyone except me calling the shots. I watched a very dear friend die of AIDS a few years ago, and that's what happened to him. Not for me, thank you very much. I'll drink that cup of hemlock at a time and place of my own choosing, if you don't mind.

God, this is a morbid post. I'm sorry about that, and I hope it doesn't chase you away. I was just having a bit of fun when I wrote what I did about hurricanes and earthquakes, and look where it's taken me ...

I'm going home now to listen to Christmas music and finish wrapping the presents. Stick around, j_amanda ...

Dec. 24th, 2004 01:07 pm (UTC)
Nah, morbidity is not likely to scare me off. Christmas, however, is a whole 'nother story. Bah! (Sorry, I try not to inflict my humbug sentiments on people but sometimes they just bleed through.)

After your experience with your friend I can understand why you'd want control. In that I agree, I want to be free to shuffle off this mortal coil should I feel the need. But I don't want it pre-determined by someone else, e.g. lethal injection by The State. This is why I don't commit capital crimes. Other than the fact that I'm not, well, a criminal.

Hope you got all your presents wrapped!
Dec. 24th, 2004 01:16 pm (UTC)
Not last night (I collapsed on the bed about 9:30 p.m. thinking "I'll just lie down a moment and rest my eyes" -- famous last words). The next thing I knew I was waking up bright-eyed and busy-tailed at 3:45 a.m., so I got up, made coffee, and finished the wrapping then. Chloe (my 17+ year old cat) probably thought I was crazy, but she was too polite to say anything. She just stayed on the bed sleeping.
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